Fear sabotages the best of intentions. It can infiltrate marriages and relationships, keep you from achieving your goals, and silence good people who might otherwise speak up in the face of adversity. In order to live up to your full potential, and to make your life and marriage the best they can be, then itās essential to overcome fear.
Wondering where to begin? Weāve gathered a few tips to help bolster your courage.
1. DO THE RIGHT THING IN SPITE OF YOUR FEAR.
Oftentimes, overcoming fear means doing the right thing even when youāre afraid to. This works more easily in theory than in practice. In real time, making moves despite your fears could result in real consequences. You might be risking your job, the ire of your loved ones, or public criticism. But the thing is, thereās always something or someone important that is worth fighting for.
When youāre faced with fear of doing the right thing, consider the far-reaching effects of your decision. How will it improve your life, or the lives of others in the long run? What kind of impact will it have on your future? Stay focused on the long term as you make your move.
2. FOCUS LESS ON WHAT OTHERS THINK.
When we hold ourselves back, itās often because weāre worried about what others will do or say. This is true whether youāre worried about your spouseās opinion, or your family or friendsā. Itās important to consider the next best move for your particular situation, and of course, other people will factor into that. But there will be times when worrying too much about othersā reactions will sabotage your efforts to succeed.
Examine the goal youāve set or the obstacle in front of you. If moving forward aligns with Godās plan and your values, there will be times when youāll need to press ahead. And, if itās possible, do so in such a way that maintains as much peace in your relationships as possible.
Alternatively, there will be times when you and your spouse have decisions to make together, and youāll fear potential outside responses. In these cases, you will need to work together and support each other through any misgivings you may have. Prayerfully make decisions together about how to tackle your situation, then move forward with your focus on why you made that call in the first place.
3. LOVE RELENTLESSLY.
Letting love fuel your actions is a powerful way to overcome feelings of fear. Love is infinitely stronger than fear, yet we often forget that when weāre in the midst of a frightening scenario. When we focus on our love for others, then we can push past our fear. Whatever the scenario, focusing on love over fearfulness will help us move, then keep moving.
4. TAKE THE FIRST STEP.
Often, taking the first step is one of the biggest hurdles to overcoming fear. We often get trapped in analysis paralysis, overthinking situations rather than taking action. That pattern then pulls us into inaction, which results in more fear. Rather than withdrawing from a situation that scares you, look within to identify whatās making you fearful. Then, start moving.
CONCLUSION
Overcoming fear is required in order for us to reach our full potential. Thatās true whether weāre working on personal development, our marriages, or other relationships such as friendships and family bonds. In order to be a healthy individualāand, as a result, cultivate healthy relationshipsāwe need to confront our fears.